如何培养聪明的孩子？

• Raising intelligent kids is simpler and more basic than many parents realize.养育聪明的孩子比许多父母意识到的更简单、更基础。

• It's not about buying expensive toys, providing academic activities starting in infancy, or sending your child to an expensive school.这与购买昂贵的玩具、从婴儿期开始提供学术活动或送您的孩子去昂贵的学校无关。

• Quite the reverse—it's all about taking good care of yourself, and slowing down so you can be loving and present.恰恰相反——这一切都是为了照顾好自己，放慢脚步，这样你才能充满爱和存在感。
• Do all these good things for and with your child starting from birth, or start doing them right now, wherever you are in the parenting process.从出生开始就为您的孩子做所有这些好事，或者现在就开始做，无论您处于育儿过程中的哪个阶段。

For most of my professional life, I’ve been addressing questions relating to gifted development and education, so it’s not a surprise when I’m asked to participate in an interview on the topic of raising intelligent kids. What was a surprise, however, as I prepared for and gave a recent interview, was how little I focused on intelligence, and how much I emphasized some simple old-fashioned ideas about raising children.在我职业生涯的大部分时间里，我一直在解决与天才发展和教育有关的问题，所以当我被要求参加关于培养聪明孩子的采访时，这并不奇怪。 然而，令人惊讶的是，当我准备并接受最近的一次采访时，我对智力的关注如此之少，而且我如此强调了一些关于抚养孩子的简单老式观念。

Although the main focus of my research, teaching, and writing has been on giftedness, I don’t actually prize intelligence over other qualities. In fact, the attributes I value most are kindness, integrity, a sense of humour, and wisdom, none of which require a high IQ.尽管我的研究、教学和写作的主要重点是天赋，但实际上我并不认为智力胜过其他品质。 事实上，我最看重的品质是善良、正直、幽默感和智慧，这些都不需要高智商。

That being said, intelligence does matter. A curious, well-developed, and well-disciplined mind is an advantage in most human activities, from school to work to relationships. Based on current research findings on intelligence and the brain, here are my conclusions about the practical implications for parents who want to support the development of their child’s intelligence.话虽如此，智力确实很重要。 从学校到工作再到人际关系，好奇、发达和纪律严明的头脑是大多数人类活动的优势。 根据目前关于智力和大脑的研究结果，以下是我关于希望支持孩子智力发展的父母的实际意义的结论。

1. It starts with you.从你开始。

Take good care of yourself so you can take good care of your child. When you let it be okay to be imperfect and welcome your mistakes as learning opportunities, you are helping your child to thrive in every way. 好好照顾自己，才能照顾好孩子。 当您允许不完美并欢迎您的错误作为学习机会时，您就是在帮助您的孩子在各个方面茁壮成长。

2. Show your child bountiful love in action.在行动中向您的孩子展示丰富的爱。

Be dependable and consistently warm. Be kind and patient. Show up.可靠并始终保持温暖,善良和耐心。 亲自陪伴。

3. Listen, really listen.倾听，真的倾听。

Respond to your child’s questions, pay attention to their curiosities, be present to their worries.回答孩子的问题，关注他们的好奇心，关心他们的担忧。

4. Make sure there’s lots of time for play.确保有足够的时间玩耍。

Remember that play is the work of childhood, more essential to your young child’s brain development (up to at least seven years old) than time spent on stuff that looks more like academic learning. Play time is not wasted time in the process of getting smart.请记住，玩耍是童年的工作，与花在看起来更像是学术学习的事情上的时间相比，对幼儿的大脑发育（至少 7 岁）更重要。 游戏时间不是浪费在变聪明的过程中。

5. Stimulate all your child’s senses.激发孩子的所有感官。

From birth onward, give your child opportunities for exploration using all their senses. When they seem especially interested in something, help them find ways to learn more about that.从出生开始，就让您的孩子有机会利用他们的所有感官进行探索。 当他们似乎对某事特别感兴趣时，帮助他们找到更多地了解这方面的方法。

6. Model and teach how to manage emotions.示范和教授如何管理情绪。

Emotion regulation, self-control, persistence, and perseverance, are all more important than IQ to succeed in every area of life. Teach your child relaxation techniques like mindfulbreathing, and make sure they have enough balance in their lives, including time in nature, and do-nothing times when they can putter and daydream.要在生活的各个领域取得成功，情绪调节、自我控制、坚持和毅力都比智商更重要。 教您的孩子放松技巧，如正念呼吸，并确保他们在生活中保持足够的平衡，包括在大自然中的时间，以及他们可以推杆和做白日梦的无所事事的时间。

7. Pay attention to your child’s physical development.关注孩子的身体发育。

Ensure your child has nourishing food, enough sleep, and lots of physical exercise, preferably outdoors. All of these are important brain-builders.确保您的孩子有营养的食物、充足的睡眠和大量的体育锻炼，最好是在户外。 所有这些都是重要的大脑建设者。

8. Nurture your child’s creativity.培养孩子的创造力。

Not only does creativity enliven life and learning, it’s a terrific vehicle for emotional healing and self-expression.创造力不仅使生活和学习充满活力，而且还是情绪疗愈和自我表达的绝佳工具。

Do all these things, starting at your child’s birth, and you’ll be nurturing their intelligence. But if your child is five or ten or fifteen and you haven’t been doing these things, that’s okay too. Recent findings on the brain show that there’s remarkable possibility and opportunity for brain change and development throughout the lifespan, by way of a mechanism called neural plasticity. From birth right into old age, the brain develops when we interact with the world, when we engage in activities we find meaningful, and when we challenge ourselves to keep learning.做所有这些事情，从你孩子出生开始，你就会培养他们的智力。 但是如果你的孩子五岁、十岁或十五岁，而你没有做过这些事情，那也没关系。 最近对大脑的研究表明，通过一种称为神经可塑性的机制，大脑在整个生命周期中发生变化和发育的可能性和机会非常大。 从出生到老年，当我们与世界互动时，当我们从事我们认为有意义的活动时，以及当我们挑战自己不断学习时，大脑就会发育。

Many parents are surprised to learn that the secrets of raising smart kids are so old-fashioned—love your kid, be kind and patient with them, make sure they have lots of time for play and get enough sleep—but really, it seems that brain-building and person-building are the same thing.许多父母惊讶地发现，养育聪明孩子的秘诀是如此古老——爱你的孩子，对他们友善和耐心，确保他们有足够的时间玩耍和充足的睡眠——但实际上，似乎大脑发育和造人是一回事。