雅量与幸福 Magnanimity and happiness

生命，每个人只有一次，或长或短，生活，每个人都在继续，或悲或欢;人生，每个人都在旅途，或起或伏。人无完人，事无完美，有些小人，你不须计较，计较会烦;有些繁事，你不必在意，在意会累;世界很大，人心很杂，哪能不遇到小人?红尘很深，人世浮华，哪能没有烦心事?想的浅一点，看的淡一点!委屈了，默默无语;误解了，微微一笑。

每个人，都在争取一个完满的人生。然而，世界上没有绝对完满的东西。太阳一到中间，马上就会偏西；月圆，马上就会月亏。所以，有缺憾才是恒久，不完满才叫人生。其实，最好的境界就是花未开全，月未圆。肯低头，就永远不会撞门；肯让步，就永远不会退步。求缺的人，才有满足感；惜福的人，才有幸福感。

Life, everyone only once, long or short, life, everyone is continuing, sad or happy; In life, everyone is on a journey, rising or falling. No one is perfect, nothing is perfect, some villains, you don't have to worry, worry will be annoying; Some complicated things, you don't have to care, care will be tired; The world is very big and people are very mixed. How can we not meet villains? The world of mortals is very deep, and the world is flashy. How can we not be bothered? Think shallowly and watch shallowly! Wronged, silent; Misunderstood, smiled.

Everyone is striving for a perfect life. However, there is nothing absolutely perfect in the world. As soon as the sun reaches the middle, it will turn west; If the moon is full, it will lose money soon. Therefore, it is eternal to have regrets, and life is incomplete. In fact, the best state is that the flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not round. If you bow your head, you will never hit the door; If you give in, you will never step back. Only those who want to be short can have a sense of satisfaction; Only those who cherish happiness have a sense of happiness.

生命本身就是时间和空间的总和，如果能从生命得到解脱，便是超越了时间与空间的范畴。人们对生命的无奈与困扰，无法自救，便要用佛法的智慧来处理。有了智慧的人，自我中心，自然淡化，而至消融消失，那便是证入无我的实相，亦即是佛的境界──禅宗所谓的「明心见性」。

真正的修行不是逃离，不是躲避，而是欣然的面对，全然的接受，接受此刻正在经历的一切好与坏。唯有当我们真正完全接受时，我们才明白一切的好与坏都只是自己的分别。遗忘那些尘世的云烟，抖落那些人间的恩怨，好山好水好人生，把山水做知音，人间哪里还有烦恼？拥有宽容，我们将一生收获笑容。

认识一个人靠缘分，了解一个人靠耐心，征服一个人靠智慧，和睦相处靠包容。人，相互帮扶才感到温暖；事，共同努力才知道简单；路，有人同行才不觉漫长；友，相互记挂才体味情深。与人为善，不遗余力地成就他人，不知不觉也成就了自己。一己是人，众人是天；谋事在人，成事在天。

Life itself is the sum of time and space. If we can get rid of life, we will surpass the scope of time and space. People's helplessness and distress to life, unable to save themselves, must be handled with the wisdom of Buddhism. The so-called "state of seeing the Buddha" is the so-called "state of seeing the Buddha", that is, the disappearance of the self.

The real practice is not to escape, not to avoid, but to face it gladly, fully accept, and accept all the good and bad that are going through at the moment. Only when we really accept it completely can we understand that all good and bad are just our own differences. Forget those earthly clouds and smoke, shake off those earthly gratitude and resentments, good mountains, good water, good life, and make mountains and rivers a bosom friend. Where else is there trouble in the world? With tolerance, we will gain smiles all our life.

Know a person by fate, understand a person by patience, conquer a person by wisdom, live in harmony by tolerance. People feel warm only when they help each other; Things, work together to know simple; The road is not long until someone walks with you; Friends, remember each other to appreciate deep love. Be kind to others, spare no effort to achieve others, and unknowingly achieve yourself. One is man, and all are heaven; Man proposes, god disposes.

北风和南风比武，看谁能把一个人身上大衣吹掉。北风先展开攻势，猛厉地刮，那人觉得很冷，反而把大衣裹得更紧。南风则徐徐吹动，顿时风和日丽，那人浑身暖和，于是脱掉大衣。良言好比南风，粗语就像北风。愚者认为做事用粗暴的语言才能成功，而智者以婉转的语言，就能把事情处理得圆满。

太阳不会因你的失意，明天不再升起;月亮不会因你的抱怨，今晚不再降落。只有不快的斧，没有劈不开的柴;只有想不到的人，没有做不到的事。想干总会有办法，不想干总会有理由。心情不是人生的全部，却能左右人生的全部。心情好，什么都好，心情不好，一切都乱了。我们常常不是输给了别人，而是坏心情贬低了我们的形象，降低了我们的能力，扰乱了我们的思维，从而输给了自己。控制好心情，生活才会处处祥和。

修得胸中雅量，蓄得一生幸福。人生，要面对自己、他人和自然万象。自己是最大的对手，他人会影响你的生活，万象是无法超越的存在。心宽之人，承认自己有弱点，明白他人没义务向着自己，懂得顺应天道。故而不为失败懊恼，不为失去悲伤，顺其自然，随缘自在。心如荷塘，越宽，眼中污垢越少，幸福越多。

The north wind and the south wind compete to see who can blow off a man's coat. The north wind attacked first and blew fiercely. The man felt very cold and wrapped his coat more tightly. The south wind was blowing slowly. Suddenly it was warm and sunny. The man was warm, so he took off his coat. Good words are like the south wind, rough words are like the north wind. Fools think that only rough language can succeed, while wise people can handle things perfectly with gentle language.

The sun will not rise tomorrow because of your disappointment; The moon won't land tonight because of your complaint. There is only an unhappy axe, and there is no firewood that cannot be split; There are only those who can't think of, and nothing can't be done. There is always a way to do it, and there is always a reason not to do it. Mood is not the whole of life, but it can control the whole of life. In a good mood, everything is good, in a bad mood, everything is in disorder. We are often not lost to others, but in a bad mood, which belittles our image, reduces our ability, disturbs our thinking, and thus loses to ourselves. Control your mood, life will be peaceful everywhere.

Cultivate magnanimity in your heart and save happiness in your life. In life, we should face ourselves, others and nature. You are the biggest opponent. Others will affect your life. Vientiane is an insurmountable existence. A broad-minded person admits that he has weaknesses, understands that others have no obligation to face himself, and knows how to comply with the way of heaven. Therefore, don't be upset about failure, don't be sad about loss, let it go, and be at ease. The heart is like a lotus pond. The wider the heart, the less dirt in the eyes and the more happiness.