自从国家放开了二胎政策以及三胎政策，有一些家庭情况还不错的，夫妻就计划生胎的问题，尤其是一些中年夫妻，这个时候有一定的经济实力，家庭比较稳定，所以二胎计划就提上日程了。

Since the state has liberalized the two-child policy and the three-child policy, some families have a good situation, and couples plan to have a baby, especially some middle-aged couples, who have certain economic strength at this time and the family is relatively stable, so the two-child plan is on the agenda.

不过这样的家庭，一胎的孩子一般都已经比较大了，有一些上高中甚至有一些都已经上了大学，他们觉得老大已经几乎不用管了，这个时候有一个小的，自己也有精力全部投入到小孩子的身上。

However, such families, children with one child are generally already relatively old, some are in high school and even some have gone to college, they feel that the boss has almost no need to care, at this time there is a small one, they also have all the energy to put into the child.

不过有很多夫妻从来没有把自己的二胎计划跟自己的一胎孩子商量，他们认为自己要孩子是自己的事情，没有必要告诉老大。

However, there are many couples who have never discussed their second child plans with their first child, and they think that it is their own business to have children, and there is no need to tell the boss.

也就这样二胎计划悄悄进行了，尤其是上大学的学生，一个学期都不回家，有一些课业比较紧张或者寒暑假，可能根本没有时间回家，等到自己回家的时候，却突然发现妈妈给自己生了个弟弟，表示一时之间接受不了。

In this way, the second child plan was quietly carried out, especially for students who went to college, did not go home for a semester, some schoolwork was more intense or winter and summer vacations, and may not have time to go home at all, and when they went home, they suddenly found that their mother gave birth to a younger brother, indicating that they couldn't accept it for a while.

漫画当中的主人公就是如此，当时经常跟妈妈开视频，妈妈总是不在家，没想到，等到毕业回家就发现家里多了一个新成员，自己连知情权都没有，一时之间无法表达自己的感受。

The protagonist in the comic is like this, he often opened videos with his mother at that time, and his mother was always not at home, but he didn't expect that when he came home after graduation, he found that there was a new member of the family, and he didn't even have the right to know, and he couldn't express his feelings for a while.

父母在要二胎的时候，虽然考虑了方方面面，但却忽略了老大的想法，对于这种情况到底该如何处理呢？

When parents want a second child, although they consider all aspects, but ignore the boss's ideas, how to deal with this situation?

大学毕业后回到家，却发现妈妈给我生了个“弟弟”……

其实谁都无法批判父母想要二胎的想法，但是想要二胎之前，起码要跟老大商量一下了解，给老大一个心理准备，而且生了孩子是父母的责任，并不是哥哥或姐姐的责任，不应该将责任强加给老大。否则会让孩子觉得自己在这个家庭当中没有了地位，甚至觉得自己的弟弟妹妹夺走了所有的爱，时间久了可能会导致老大出现畸形的心理，希望每个夫妻都能考虑这方面的问题。