转给要结婚的人！我们应该了解对方哪些方面才能结婚？

结婚之前，先问问对方以下15个问题
或者这15个问题，你从生活中已经知道答案的情况
我想，你也应该清楚是否适合结婚了。

以下问题，男女皆适用。
（问题来源于 著名的纽约时报）

1

Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

我们要不要孩子？如果要，主要由谁来负责照顾？

2

Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

我们的家庭赚钱能力及目标是什么？

对于消费和储蓄钱方面的观念是什么？有没有冲突？

3

Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

我们的家谁主管？

4

Have we fully disclosed our health histories,

both physical and mental?

我们有没有详尽地交换过双方的疾病史？包括精神上的。

5

Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

我们父母的态度有没有达到我们的预期？
会不会给足够的祝福？

6

Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

我们是否能够自然、坦诚地说出自己的性需求

性偏好及性恐惧？

7

Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

我们可以认真地倾听对方诉说，并公平对待

对方的想法和抱怨吗？

8

Will there be a television in the bedroom?

我们的卧室能放电视机吗？

9

Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and

have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

我们清晰地了解对方的精神需求及信仰吗？

我们讨论过孩子将来的信仰问题吗？

10

Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

我们喜欢并尊重彼此的朋友吗？

11

Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about

whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

我们能不能看重并尊敬对方的父母？

我们有没考虑到父母可能会干涉我们的关系？

12

What does my family do that annoys you?

我的家庭最让你心烦的事情是什么？

13

Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

我们永远不会因为婚姻而选择放弃的东西是什么？

14

If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地，陪同另一个人到外地工作，我们能做得到吗？

15

Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

我们是不是充满信心面对任何生活挑战，让我们的婚姻持续下去，一直往前走？