给社恐人士的建议

给社恐人士的建议

对一个社恐人士来说，他们日常最常见的情况就是，面对要和陌生人交流时总是躲避或者是和很多不熟悉的人坐在一起时没有什么话说，有时自己心中已经想好了怎么说，但是就是没有勇气去开口，或者不断的在犹豫，最后失去了自己说话的机会。在线上聊天时，他们总是能将一句话反复地想上很多遍，只为达到自己心中的完美，更严重的人有时候还会对消息能拖则拖，能文字绝不语音。

我认为社交恐惧症的人往往是因为害怕失败，他们想要表现得很好，但是他们又担心自己会失败，于是在说话的时候就会越来越紧张，然后就越容易出现问题，也导致这些社交恐惧症的人越来越拒绝和陌生人说话，最后将自己困在一个社交舒适圈内，拒绝陌生人打破你的舒适圈。

但是人是无法避开社交的，无论是生活还是工作我们都不可避免地要和很多陌生人打交道，并且人如果失去社交，那么你的精神可能会出现问题影响你的身体和心理健康。

我认为社交恐惧症的人往往将自己的社交能力想的过低，将别人的社交能力想的过高，他们有时会将社交的另一方放到裁判位上，让他来给他们打分，这是完全没有必要的，只要将双方放到相同的地位进行谈话，将自己的想法完完全全说出来，不要让社交胁迫了你的行为。这样你就能更好地控制你的社交，让你的社交不再成为你的负担。

For a social terrorist, the most common situation in their daily life is that they always avoid when they have to communicate with strangers or when they are sitting with a lot of unfamiliar people, they have nothing to say, and sometimes they already think about it in their minds. How can I say it, but I just didn't have the courage to speak, or hesitated constantly, and finally lost the opportunity to speak. When chatting online, they can always think of a sentence many times over and over again, just to achieve the perfection in their minds. More serious people sometimes delay the message, and can text and never voice.

I think people with social phobias are often afraid of failure. They want to behave well, but they are worried that they will fail, so they will become more and more nervous when speaking, and then they are more likely to have problems, which also leads to These social phobias increasingly refuse to talk to strangers, and finally trap themselves in a social comfort zone and refuse strangers to break your comfort zone.

But people can't avoid social interaction. Whether in life or work, we inevitably have to deal with many strangers. If people lose social interaction, then your mental problems may affect your physical and mental health.

I think people with social phobias tend to think too low about their social abilities and too high of others’ social abilities. They sometimes put the other side of social interaction on the referee's position and ask him to give them points. This It is completely unnecessary. Just put both parties in the same position to talk, and speak out your own thoughts completely. Don't let social coercion to your behavior. In this way, you can better control your social interaction and make your social interaction no longer a burden for you.

参考资料：文字：百度百科；图片：百度；翻译：GooGle翻译.